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I’m back. And it has definitely been a while. Why has it been awhile?

Well, as you may recall, in November, my 88-year-old grandmother fell and broke her arm. She was in a rehab facility (nursing home) for three weeks and then went back home. When she went back home I stayed the night with her every night for a month straight. I slept semi-upright in a recliner. I was there every night for 12 hours only to get up and go to one of my other jobs in the morning. I did get reprieve the Wednesday before Christmas. And I have been trying to get caught up on my sleep in a more horizontal position ever since.

I know, a month to get used to sleeping in a bed?? Well, at least two weeks. My grandmother would get up most nights every two hours to pee or take some medication or something. So I would sleep in about 45 min – 90 min increments. And every time she would get up and pee, I would have to get up and pee. So while I could sleep in my bed theoretically undisturbed, I got used to waking up every two hours or so and peeing a few times in the night. I had to retrain my sleep cycles and my bladder to sleep during the night and not be overactive.

So what about the week or so?? Well, I have a new roommate. Aiden is moving in!! It’s amazing how three people with master’s degrees that work at least two part-time jobs and have good work histories cannot find decent jobs!! So to save money Aiden is moving in to help pay the bills. It help to decrease the rent and cable bill (we have cable so we can have Internet to apply for jobs. Otherwise, we wouldn’t have it)and to shoulder the burden of the utility bill. So I have been trying to clean up the cat room, so that Aiden can have a place to sleep, and move all of Pye’s food, litter box, kitty condo and miscellaneous chemical to clean up her messes and keep everything smelling pleasant into my room. I had to move, pack, and get rid of so much. If one thing that living on my own has taught me is that I can constantly live on less than I thought or have.

Just to let you in on anything you might have missed, I did have one very good job interview in December, still waiting to here about that one. I have had some good job leads, but no other interviews. My second job has closed up shop until March for renovations, so I am looking for a second part-time job (maybe one that pays a little bit better than what I was getting).

Other than that, life has been pretty much the same. There was the incident on New Years, but I will save that one for later.

All in all . . .its good to be back!

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Resumes sent out this week: 1

Applications filled out: 0

Interviews scheduled this week: 0

Thing I am grateful for: Coupons!

Ok 2 things:

1. I haven’t been sending out a lot of resumes and applications because I have been debating for the last month if I want to leave my job or suck it up and get a third job. Yesterday, I decided I want another job . . .badly! I like the place I’m working. However, I am kinda of tired with my boss.

I am tired of having every little aspect of my job dictated to me. I am tired of having to do my job in a way that isn’t conducive to achieve the goals that were dictated to me or that I want to achieve myself. And most importantly, I’m tired of part-time work. I am getting more hours as I it is coming up on our busy season, but its a lot of manual labor (which isn’t exactly a bad thing) but I am tired of my has turning color from coffee and flavorings.

Therefore, with renewed hope . . .I am looking for a new job.

2. Grandma broke her humorous . . .and it isn’t very funny. Grandma fell a week and a half ago and hasn’t been home since. She is in a nursing home for rehab in the hopes she will return home within a week or two. She it pissed and wants to go home right now. I go visit her after work almost every day to see her. I am suffering from what is termed caregiver burnout. I haven’t posted a new post because at night I come home tired and usually take a shower, maybe eat something and go to bed.

Whats most troubling is that mom, who moved here to help take care of her mother, isn’t doing so well. She has been diagnosed with AFib and given new medication which is working. Yet, my mother is also having stomach issues. She can’t eat without getting sick and has lost 15 lbs. within the past month. She has had a couple of test, one came out clean, the other we are still waiting on. I can’t imagine taking care of two people at the same time. However, I feel I will have to.

Resumes sent out this week: 0

Applications submitted this week: 0

Interviews set for this week: 0

Thing I’m most grateful for: Samantha picking up Pye’s big hairball today

Reason for not writing last week: Grandma

So, I’m sorry for not writing last week. I spent 6:30 pm to 6:30 am in a recliner, next to grandma waiting for her to get in the night to pee. I don’t sleep well in a recliner. Unlike my mother and her sibling I can’t really sleep sitting up or any various stage of recline other than flat on my back.

This isn’t the first time I have slept in a recliner, next to my grandma, waiting for her to pee. I’ve been doing this off and on for the past 4 years. In November of 2006, my grandmother had her annual flu shot. Two days later she was feeling the effects of said flu shot and went to her bedroom closet to get a sweater to fend of some chills. Upon retrieving the sweater she went to sit down on the bed and missed and fell. She compress-fractured her back.

For a month, my grandmother was completely bed ridden. While I had hired several ladies to come in and care for her, the night shift wasn’t fully taken care of for a month. So most nights I was sleeping there, waiting for her to wake me up so I could get the bed pan (yes, I did say bed pan), or a drink of water, or a pain pill.

For three months I went to work, went to school and went to grandma’s. I don’t think I even looked in a mirror, I don’t remember taking many showers or even eating very much. One night I went out to a friend’s party in sweatpants and a sweatshirt, no makeup, hair in a ponytail and sneakers. To say I was underdressed was an understatement. I was kind of like a new mom, who hasn’t been out of the house much since her child was born and didn’t realize that she needed to actually get dressed up.

This time I am thankful that grandma’s injury was just arthritis, and that with a shift in medication, it was an easy fix. Tonight is the first night she has been on her own in almost a week. Tonight I get to sleep in my bed (with Pye). However, if I can get my days and nights back on the same schedule, that would be pretty cool right about now.