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I’m back. And it has definitely been a while. Why has it been awhile?

Well, as you may recall, in November, my 88-year-old grandmother fell and broke her arm. She was in a rehab facility (nursing home) for three weeks and then went back home. When she went back home I stayed the night with her every night for a month straight. I slept semi-upright in a recliner. I was there every night for 12 hours only to get up and go to one of my other jobs in the morning. I did get reprieve the Wednesday before Christmas. And I have been trying to get caught up on my sleep in a more horizontal position ever since.

I know, a month to get used to sleeping in a bed?? Well, at least two weeks. My grandmother would get up most nights every two hours to pee or take some medication or something. So I would sleep in about 45 min – 90 min increments. And every time she would get up and pee, I would have to get up and pee. So while I could sleep in my bed theoretically undisturbed, I got used to waking up every two hours or so and peeing a few times in the night. I had to retrain my sleep cycles and my bladder to sleep during the night and not be overactive.

So what about the week or so?? Well, I have a new roommate. Aiden is moving in!! It’s amazing how three people with master’s degrees that work at least two part-time jobs and have good work histories cannot find decent jobs!! So to save money Aiden is moving in to help pay the bills. It help to decrease the rent and cable bill (we have cable so we can have Internet to apply for jobs. Otherwise, we wouldn’t have it)and to shoulder the burden of the utility bill. So I have been trying to clean up the cat room, so that Aiden can have a place to sleep, and move all of Pye’s food, litter box, kitty condo and miscellaneous chemical to clean up her messes and keep everything smelling pleasant into my room. I had to move, pack, and get rid of so much. If one thing that living on my own has taught me is that I can constantly live on less than I thought or have.

Just to let you in on anything you might have missed, I did have one very good job interview in December, still waiting to here about that one. I have had some good job leads, but no other interviews. My second job has closed up shop until March for renovations, so I am looking for a second part-time job (maybe one that pays a little bit better than what I was getting).

Other than that, life has been pretty much the same. There was the incident on New Years, but I will save that one for later.

All in all . . .its good to be back!

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Thing I am most grateful for: Having 2 jobs in a tough economy

This week I have come to the resignation that I will be in this town a couple of more years at least. It’s not so bad. I like living here. I was always going to come back here to retire, like my parents. I just haven’t seen as much of the world as they had when they were my age.

The biggest resignation that I had this week was the fact that if I want to start dating again I am going to have to do it here . . .in this town. The thought of this scares me as most personal ads for men my age have something in the first paragraph along the lines of “I have two sons that are my world,” or “I have the three-year old daughter who is the light of my life.”

Well if they are your world or the light of your life then why do you need a relationship. Isn’t having the light or the world enough?

I guess I should digress at that point. I guess these men want someone to have an adult conversation with . . .along with other adult fun. I also realize in this part of the country most men have been married and divorced at least once by the time they are my age. And as I and these men get older, the likelihood that they are going to have children goes up exponentially.

So I figure if I start dating now, I might be able to find a man with out kids . . .maybe. I just don’t know how to start this process. Any suggestions?

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Thing I’m most grateful for: Samantha picking up Pye’s big hairball today

Reason for not writing last week: Grandma

So, I’m sorry for not writing last week. I spent 6:30 pm to 6:30 am in a recliner, next to grandma waiting for her to get in the night to pee. I don’t sleep well in a recliner. Unlike my mother and her sibling I can’t really sleep sitting up or any various stage of recline other than flat on my back.

This isn’t the first time I have slept in a recliner, next to my grandma, waiting for her to pee. I’ve been doing this off and on for the past 4 years. In November of 2006, my grandmother had her annual flu shot. Two days later she was feeling the effects of said flu shot and went to her bedroom closet to get a sweater to fend of some chills. Upon retrieving the sweater she went to sit down on the bed and missed and fell. She compress-fractured her back.

For a month, my grandmother was completely bed ridden. While I had hired several ladies to come in and care for her, the night shift wasn’t fully taken care of for a month. So most nights I was sleeping there, waiting for her to wake me up so I could get the bed pan (yes, I did say bed pan), or a drink of water, or a pain pill.

For three months I went to work, went to school and went to grandma’s. I don’t think I even looked in a mirror, I don’t remember taking many showers or even eating very much. One night I went out to a friend’s party in sweatpants and a sweatshirt, no makeup, hair in a ponytail and sneakers. To say I was underdressed was an understatement. I was kind of like a new mom, who hasn’t been out of the house much since her child was born and didn’t realize that she needed to actually get dressed up.

This time I am thankful that grandma’s injury was just arthritis, and that with a shift in medication, it was an easy fix. Tonight is the first night she has been on her own in almost a week. Tonight I get to sleep in my bed (with Pye). However, if I can get my days and nights back on the same schedule, that would be pretty cool right about now.